Saturday, December 15, 2012
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Good afternoon everyone! The holidays have started. How are you all planning to spend your holidays? I hope you have a great plan for your holidays and Christmas is coming soon. Today, I'm gonna talk a little bit about parenting. I know what you all might think, yes yes, I'm just a single guy sitting here talking about parenting when I'm not even a parent myself. Yoou all have a point that I'm doing that right now, but thing is, I have been observing young parents and how they are teaching or rather, educating their children. Somehow, I just feel that something is wrong whenever I see them scold their kids and so on.
To be honest, its kinda sad to see that parents nowadays just, don't know how to teach their kids properly. At first, I didn't give a damn about parenting as you know, I'm single and stuff but till I overheard this conversation between a father and his daughter. From my point of view, What I saw was this thing called "Super High Expectation" from the father to his daughter(and maybe his son as well). From what I could tell, this family of four is most probably a middle income family which is, pretty rare to find in Singapore nowadays. How I could tell? Simple, I'm sure most of you now should know what "MindChamps" is right? If you don't know, Google it. So, apparently their daughter is in the MindChamps programme and to enroll in MindChamps ain't cheap as well, given that they have a maid as well and judging by the outft the father was wearing, formal business wear, most probably working as a mangeral position of some sorts. But one thing I noticed, he was never smiling, high chance that he is unhappy about a few stuff, lets just say maybe, work and his boss(?)
So, I was having dinner at a food court at Toa Payoh and this family came along and sat beside my table. That is why I over heard their conversation. So apparently, I would assume the father was asking his daughter about her studies. They were talking halfway when I heard the daughter telling him that she was already doing her best in her studies and the next thing that I heard just blew my mind away. The father replied with a "Tried your best...that's BUlLSHIT!" Sorry to say, but my mind went "WTF mode" instantly. I mean, come on, your daughter is already trying her best in school but this is what you tell her?
To be honest, it is really sad to see families interacting like this. I mean, yes, when you have kids, you have officially become his or her parent. But that doesn't mean that you can do as you like to your kids just because you're their parent. To matter how you see it, your kids are still human. They have feelings as well. What you should be doing is "grow with your kids". I know going to work to earn a living to support your family is important for your family's survival. Going through all the shit at work pisses you off as well, given that you have to deal with shitty people all around you. Yes I know it does pisses you off, but that doesn't mean you should vent it all on your kids. Come on, they're not your punching pillow. You should jolly know well that having kids in Singapore is a very HUGE resposibility and its also costly to raise your kids with all the school fees and stuff. But it's still not a valid reason to vent your anger on your child.
Think about it. your child is only what? Primary 2,3,4? You have to understand that kids of that age won't know as much as you do and the fact that nowadays teachers in school don really teach what is needed to be educated your kids, so as their parent, you should be the one educating your kids instead. BUT, educatse the right things. Go figure that out yourself if you're wondering what the "right" things are.
I'll end it here for today, I might right more when I feel like it. I kinda lost the mood to continue writing on, but hey, you'll never know ehn I will get the feeling beack and start writing so much again.
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